. It is so hard to fight against a system created by adults that diminishes our children. Anonymous Wow Nikki I read your post and it brought back so many memories. I have a 4 and a half years old daughter and a 2 and a half son. He was sooo upset, he thought the teacher hated him, he didn't want to go to school, he began throwing up and having panic attacks.
. I understand the reaction of the small children to the system. It seems the only time admins pay attention is when multiple parents come forward, either many individual parents, or as a group. I really liked how you gave an amazing alternative option for the charts. I am now a new follower! Even the well meaning systems of rewarding positive behaviors create some unintended problems. We live in Eastern Europe and the system is different, of course. I love your take a break charts! With the move I left my fortune 500 career and became a stay at home mom to my 3 wonderful children.
Thank you for this article. Two websites to check out: www. For example, if a child isn't being an active learner repeatedly during their independent work, then they don't get to participate in our fun educational game. The main reason I wanted to post here is to share the amount of agony we as parents have suffered when our Kindergartener started his elementary school this year. This year we had Mickey Dees! After 5 stars, I have them peel off their stars they can place them on their name tag or notebook and they can choose something from the Treasure Box.
The opposite of our entire job description! I was so struck by the reaction of my oldest son who has never had any behavior issues, always well behaved, good student, etc. The following week his class teacher wanted to implement the color technique. Used this way, they have always been effective in enforcing boundaries in my classroom and communicating with parents for whom I write a note about any child on yellow or red. I cannot tell you the self-esteem dives and humiliation a system like the color card does to a child's psyche. They are fun for the kids, they are fun to make, and I enjoy making something that I can share, so I just keep at it. I am not a teacher but a mother of two boys.
I also had to constantly reassure parents about their child's move on the clip chart. I really try to use it more for the positive aspect, and really try to reinforce that with positive notes going home, and if they get off the chart they get to eat lunch with me. In fact, it has changed my perspective and opened my eyes. The clip chart is used extremely inconsistently between the third grade classes. Just having someone validate his feelings and help him maneuver his day made all the difference for him.
I read your post and most of the comments. It does not have to be singled out just for your child. The same kids were always on red, with no improvement, and it felt like we were showcasing failures. It is working sooo well in my class. It seems she changed the card to yellow as my son put a piece of mulch in his mouth and he had a temper tantrum. You post helped me to make the connection and understand that it's about preserving the whole child and not focusing on the behavior which is often times, so beyond anyone's control. Her primary rewards are food related, so for a full day of bathroom activity she would receive a reward.
When the class has a rough day or things seem to be falling apart, it's usually because I am not well prepared, keeping the pace, or following routines! I will be doing some research ; Also, I liked these. I'm really glad to hear you mention it too because it really opens your eyes and heart to the damage that can be done by tradition rewards and punishment systems. Of course, you could get fancy and decorate your clothespins with fabric or patterned paper too. Most charts I've seen have students start in one spot, with chances to move up even higher or go down. And laminated with some clear contact paper. And he was always worried that he would make a mistake and get his color changed. .
It is great for course correcting attitude and smaller infractions. I counted detentions as merit badges, suspensions as trophies. Do you think that the charts that reward the good behaviour toward enforcing a good habit are wrong? I was so upset because I knew h was doing his best, but was struggling with the transition for a private play-based preschool to a public academically driven public school. I actually had a rather low stress environment, but that is because I use developmentally appropriate practices. So when I ask someone to go there, they know what it means and no one else bats an eye. Thanks for your great contribution to the conversation!! Some students need to use a quieter setting. What will they take away from the experience? I use a variation of the clip chart, but have also had concerns about it.